Monday, February 23, 2009


I have been thinking of this subject very much recently. Is having a crush healthy or unhealthy? What even defines a crush? In the past, I would always find myself thinking of a guy and I could never get him out of my head! I'm grateful now, that I truly understand the character of Jesus, I grasp that He is all I need. It took me a really long time to get here. For the longest time I didn't even have a boy (I mean man!) pop into my head. I was completely content with the fact that God was not only my father, and brother, but also my lover. I didn't need to "crush" on anyone because I was only focused on Christ. Well, what happens when all of a sudden, you start noticing someone and think they're attractive, and wonder "what if?" Is that ok? I don't think it's wrong to think people are attractive. But what happens, when you start attaching false hopes to that person because you're smitten over them? I don't think that is ok. Where do you draw a line? I'm glad that I have been able to discern that line, but I'm just wondering what some other opinions are on this topic? Silly Crushes!

1 comment:

Tony's 2 Cents said...

so many thoughts.

admiring or being attracted to someone is so normal and can be a healthy thing..with limits, correct thoughts, and God centered lives--as the same the same thing can happen AFTER MARRIAGE, too. That's why it's important to ensure we don't change who we are or our behavior to be near/with those we admire or are attracted to-- We just have to think correctly about ourselves and where our value comes from. :)--but I'd say as a single woman--pray,admire,enjoy friendships and let that man discover why admiring you and then pursuing would be a blessing, too :)

I guess I don't like the word "crush" much like I don't like the word "flirt." We just need to ensure mature ways of handling these things that honor God.